Day 7: What to Say

When you lose your child, people always have to say something. I'm not sure if they're trying to make you feel better, or maybe they are trying to make themselves feel better. I wish they would just stop trying so hard.

If you're wondering what you can say, or what you can do , let me enlighten you.

Say her name. Just because she isn't here now , doesn't mean she never was here. It doesn't mean that she didn't live a life worth remembering. Hearing you say her name tells me you remember her , and how special she was to all of us. It reminds me that you cared about her too , and that you remember her accomplishments. It tells me you remember her too.

For me , that is music to my ears , and it soothes my heart..


When you cant find the words to express sympathy , I'd rather hear silence then the stuff I wrote about on day 6.

Casey was here. She brought so much joy into my life. Some days I feel like life without her is like a day with no sunshine. A rainy day without a rainbow at the end of the rain.

I loved her , her whole life. Now I'm going to miss her for the rest of my life.